The modern world is completely naive about the real cause of sexual aberrations—which I hesitate to call perversions since people so afflicted are simply perceiving themselves and the opposite sex as they were taught to do by their early environment, possibly going back to their in utero experiences and the hormonal milieu in which they were bathed. Indeed, these individuals are perceiving their true spiritual identity and the spiritual identity of the same-sexed person to whom they may be attracted.
But to grasp the potential truth of these claims, it is essential to acknowledge that each of us, physically speaking, is either male or female and that we had parents who were of course also one or the other sex. Everyone is aware that whatever one’s biological sex, he or she will feel masculine or feminine to varying degrees. There is, in other words, a distinction to be made between the physical and the spiritual. Indeed, if our parents were confused about their own sexual identity, even if it is not all that obvious to them, their children will be affected.
The next step, whether or not you agree or disagree, is to at least consider that, as the Bible proclaims, we have been created “in the image of God.” Indeed, only if this is true can the real cause of sexual aberrations be explained. Here’s why. The Bible provides a model for the family. I realize that such a model is distasteful to the liberal mindset, but it is there nonetheless. Indeed, a liberal interpretation of the Bible and a corresponding deviation from the biblical model is the ultimate cause of most if not all sexual identity aberrations. Consider that that the suicide rate of those experiencing a conflict between their biological and spiritual identities is about 20 times higher than those in whom their biological and spiritual identities jibe. This doesn’t make one or the other right or wrong. Psychological problems also occur much more frequently in the parents of conflicted children–consistent with my experience in dealing with families in a therapeutic setting.
I refer to parents with conflicted sexual identities as “reversed.” If the mother had parents who were spiritually reversed—meaning that they were out of line with the biblical model for the flow of authority in the home, their children, now parents themselves, are much more likely to be similarly reversed. It’s pretty much a one-to-one correlation. (The details and mechanism of this reversal, for those who might want to explore this topic in greater depth, can be found in the Epilogue of my most recent book: Mind, Matter and God: Exploding the Myth of Evolution — available through Amazon.) The bottom line is that in homes where the father has lost his spiritual authority and where the mother has picked up the slack and become (spiritually speaking) the more authoritarian parent, there is a spiritual reversal that will affect the children. Keep in mind that the reversal can be very subtle and one might have to look at their parents in a new light in order recognize it.
The underlying reasoning is this. A daughter identifies with her mother and, should her mother be spiritually reversed, she (the daughter) will in effect be identifying with the spiritual attributes of a man such that, later, when seeking a mate, or just interacting with others, she will be drawn to someone who is similarly reversed. In a nutshell, the female spirit in the daughter will be attracted to the male spirit in a same-sex friend—in effect establishing a “normal” heterosexual relationship–while at the same time finding the comfort and intimacy she should have but did not experience with her mother. Indeed, with rare exceptions, the mother has subconscious hostility, jealousy and even hatred toward her daughter.
Should we then be promoting homosexual or bisexual relationships, and no longer consider them as perversions? If yes, we need to honor such individuals for having the courage to be the person they feel they really are. It’s neither right nor wrong, but this decision will unfortunately lead to much suffering and heartache, given that the spiritual roots of their relationship with their partner are out of line with the biblical ideal—with this ideal being in the image of God as biblically defined, not coincidentally, as both male and female! And note that God said He “made us, male or female, in His image.”
Before discussing the possibility of healing and how this can be achieved, including the possibility that one can remain right where they are should that be their preference, it will be helpful to reflect for a moment on a more encompassing truth—that one’s relationship to God “up there” is mirrored in one’s relationships “down here” with a chosen mate and also with one’s parents. For example, if one has been unable to communicate effectively with his or her parents, that person will to that exact measure be distanced from God. This means that he or she will inevitably experience some form of hate or rebellion toward that parent. And, in turn, the parent–already compromised with respect to the capacity to show love, will react badly and with more of the same destructive control which led to their child’s rebellion in the first place. This rebellion is a protection against parental control, perceived as rejection. These children, knowing rebellion is wrong, will suffer some measure of self-rejection and will seek ways, not always approved by God, to feel better about themselves. A strong-willed child will find submission to such a parent unbearable, as if losing his or her soul. Such children have never received true unconditional (agape) love. How could they? Such love can only be experienced by the presence of God in a home, and in reversed homes His presence and therefore love, has been compromised.
The practical solution is twofold—remain as is, or change one’s spiritual makeup to be line with the Biblical model and, as a result, draw closer to God. Sexual preference is one thing, but getting close to the God Father is the highest ideal–only possible in the absence of negative, destructive emotions of the kind that are invariably linked to reversal. Whether one chooses to change their sexual orientation or not, it is always wise to renounce and be healed of any and all destructive emotions. In another post, I will explain exactly how this can be effectively achieved. Ideally, one wants to get in synch with their biological sexuality as this is far more likely to result in a fulfilling and productive life.
So, all said, does one have a choice? is there a realistic possibility of change? Yes, but it is essential to understand that if change is to be realized, one must first of all deal with the emotions, hidden or otherwise, which are intrinsic to reversal–including rejection and rebellion, hate, etc. Is it all worth the trouble? Yes, because freedom from these destructive feelings is the only way to experience intimacy with God who, biblically defined, is love. In another post, I will explain, step by step, exactly how to proceed in achieving this change. Whatever one’s sexual preference, rebellion against God, invariably manifesting as rebellion against one or both parents, is never a good thing. One is not born gay, bisexual or transgender. This lost synchrony with one’s biological sex is the direct result of the relative absence of God in the home, the result of spiritual reversal consequent to a deviation from the biblical model beginning somewhere in one’s lineage and becoming more deeply entrenched with the passing of each generation.
Readers may be shocked to learn that there is a strong incestuous component to every reversal—for when the father has lost his authority, to whatever measure, a child will seek more love and acceptance from the opposite-sex parent. This scenario makes it especially difficult for the child, especially a daughter, to let go of her destructive emotions–believing at some level that they are protective of a much worse incestual crime. Daughters in reversed homes, with few exceptions, hate their mothers and believe that their mothers hate them–as competitors for the father’s love. It is accordingly rare that a reversed child can be healed without the parents receiving their healing. The logic is bound to the high probability that the family triangle expresses the Trinity and the very presence of God in the home. The father is the representative of God the Father, while the mother expresses the more submissive Jesus–the Son who (take note!) is EQUALLY GOD yet submitted in all ways to the Father. It is when this model is subverted that everyone’s self-esteem suffers, love is compromised and reversal occurs–resulting in many ungodly emotions (defined in the Bible as “demons” or “unclean spirits”). However defined, they are evil intruders upon God’s ideal plan for the family, which is why–given their frequency of intrusion (e.g., “many cast out at sunset”)–I believe they are in fact demons. “Emotions” are always referred to in the Bible as spirits. Modern science, with its strong bias against the very existence of God, has the world to believe that emotions have a neurological origin, thinking it knows more than God who wrote the Bible through Spirit-filled men.